My Little Sweeties

My Little Sweeties

Monday, June 23, 2014

Five Questions

I received this email this morning: 

Dear Adam & Melissa,
 
Congratulations on the arrival of your electronic (or “soft”) LOA!  We’re so excited that things are moving forward for you to bring home your sweet Liang, Yun Peng.
 
At this time, we will be requesting an update on your child!  We’ll of course be asking for new photos, new measurements, and an update on your child’s general health, but this is your opportunity to let us know what else YOU would like to ask!   Please note that this is the last update we will be able to request. J
 
Please respond with FIVE questions you would like for us to forward to your child’s orphanage.  We suggest asking those questions that would be most helpful in preparing for this child to join your family.  Please let us know your questions within one week of this email. 
 
As a reminder, while our staff will do their very best to obtain answers to our questions, we cannot guarantee the receipt of this information, nor how long it will take to hear back.  Rest assured that when/if we do receive new information on your child, we will let you know immediately!
 
I look forward to hearing your questions!  Have a wonderful day!


While I have about a million questions I would like to ask, I can't seem to gather my thoughts together enough to narrow them down to the "best" five questions.  I feel like I know so much about my little man, and at the same time, I know nothing.  Does he have a special lovey or comfort?  What foods does he like or hate?  Can he say any words yet?  What does he like to play with?  Who does he like to play with?  What scares him?  What makes him smile?  Does he like to be held?  Rocked?  Hugged?  Is he hugged?  

There are also those questions that nobody knows the answers to - at least not yet.  Will he love me?  Will my arms bring him comfort when he is hurt or scared?  Will he get along with his brother and sister?  Will he feel safe in our arms?  Will he love and know the Lord?  

I know I have said this before, but I am so thankful for the internet.  I have thrown out a request for friends to help me think of the five "best" questions to ask and look forward to this opportunity to learn more about my son.  I am so thankful for a great adoption agency.  I am so thankful for the orphanage our son is at.  I am so thankful for our son and AJ and Abby.  I am so thankful that this rollercoaster of a journey happened and also that it is almost over.  So much to be thankful for!

Friday, June 20, 2014

We have a "Soft LOA"

This news is good.  Really good.  We finally are locked in to a much more specific time frame in how long until we are able to bring sweet Christian home!  In about 10-12 weeks Adam and I will be on a plane heading to China!  In a few days we will get our "hard LOA".  This is the letter of acceptance that means China agrees for us to bring Christian home and to become a US citizen.  Now we have to work on citizenship/visa information and when we have about two weeks left our final preparations will be made setting up our travel and appointments in China.  There are about four stops we will need to make in China to finalize everything, so we will take little hopper planes around in the country with our son and when we land on US soil he will be a US citizen :)

I do have updates in case people are interested in making a financial contribution towards our adoption.  Instead of using the "go fund me account" that we have set up, which has been great, an even better alternative is through a loan we received.  There is no charge to you or us if you send a check, and only a 3% fee instead of 5% fee when you charge a financial gift.  Our family number is 4523.  If you send a check, send it to "Lifesong".  In the memo write, "4523/ Giles".  The address is:  Lifesong for Orphans / PO Box 40 / Gridley, IL  61744.  This will go directly into our account and we can request the money at any time to be sent directly to CCAI, our adoption agency.  I hope to set up a paypal tab when I get back to MN.  If you want to pay online right now you can go to:   www.lifesongfororphans.og/give/donate .  Then click on:  Give to an adoptive family.  You can search for us by our name and number (4523).  Thank you SO much to those who have already given!  We continue to collect and sort things for our fundraiser garage sale, which will be taking place in about three weeks.  We are looking forward to seeing what miracles God will make happen!


I have been so fortunate to spend this past week in NY.  My grandmother was really sick and I wanted to come and see her.  My dad had a flight for Tuesday, so I ended up joining him in his travels and have had such a gift of a week here in White Plains.  Talk about culture shock - I feel like the country mouse in this big old city!  I have been able to spend tons of time with my Grandma Trexler, Dad, and Aunt Fran.  I have also been able to spend lots of time with my Aunt Chris and Dee.  I have missed them so much and am so thankful for this time together.  In a few days Grandma is going to go with my Aunt Fran to recover.  There have been many appointments, visits with care providers, and working on setting up her temporary home, and I am so grateful to be able to help out with making arrangements.  I am AMAZED with my little old grandma, who is 96 years young right now.  She has shared many stories about her past and my father's childhood.  I can't believe what great memory she has - way better than my own!  She remembers how many buttons were on the sleeves of her wedding gown, the exact amount she has in her bank account, and the dates and times of all her doctors visits.  Such a smarty she is :) 

I did have a scare this week while here in NY.  The kids are with my mom for the week and yesterday my dad and I saw on the radar that a tornado was heading straight for their home.  There was a little red dot that showed where their house is and the three tornadoes that landed were only about three miles away.  As we watched the radar the path was heading straight through their home.  We stopped and all prayed and made a few calls to request other prayers, and when we checked the radar about five minutes later the radar showed the path take a sudden curve straight north, just missing the house, and our loved ones.  Thank you God for that Divine Intervention. 

Off to enjoy these final hours before a long day of travel tomorrow.  Thanks for checking our blog and staying connected with us in this amazing journey!

Melissa

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Garage Sale Fundraisers!

God is good. We are now on day 64 of our LOA wait.  CCAI is closed on the weekend, which means that weekends are "off" from endless checking of emails for a coveted update.  This past week I was so busy I barely had time to check my email - I was lucky if I checked it ten times a day :)

One reason why I was so busy was we had our big garage sale fundraiser in Alexandria at my parent's place.  I can't believe how much stuff we sold - it was a LOT.  My parents are so generously giving us $1,000 towards our adoption as a result of this fundraising event!  Their house is listed and they are hoping to move to Elko in the near future, so this sale was inevitable, but I am sure they could have used the funds to help them with moving expenses.  We are so appreciative of their sacrifice!  I was also appreciative of some of the conversations I was able to have with customers.  I had a sign stating this was an adoption fundraiser and I had a picture of Christian up.  This sparked several conversations, and a few of them so memorable I am sure I will never forget them (well, the way my memory has been lately, it will at least be a long time before I forget).  I met adoptive families who brought their sweet little kids, a few from China.  It was fun talking with them and it was so precious to watch the expressions exchanged between these parents and kids as they explained how we were so excited to bring our son home, just like they were excited to bring them home.  I also met a few ladies from China who gave advice on places we should see and what the weather and tourism should be like in September, when we are hoping to travel.  Another conversation that was dear to my heart was with a lady who said that she loves the idea of adoption, but they are still trying to conceive their own child and are in their third year of trying.  By the end of our conversation it felt like I was saying good bye to a dear friend and I gave her my number and email in case she ever wanted to chat... about infertility or adoption.   The many nights I laid in bed wondering why every step of completing our family has been a struggle and a challenge are all starting to make sense.  God's plan and His purpose are starting to unfold.

Another reason why I was so busy is we decided to make it possible for me to go to NY to see my Grandma.  We have been saving miles for China, but it isn't looking like we would have enough for airfare to get there on one ticket and she has been battling several medical difficulties, so now that she is home, I am home for the summer, and we have these miles, we decided for me to take the plunge and go. This led to lots of busy work trying to reschedule things, like tutoring, Abby's actual birthday celebrations (her birthday is tomorrow), a playdate I was hosting this week, her birthday party, and more.  I felt so bad canceling on people and pulling favors, but the kids are excited to spend another week with my mom in Alexandria and I am really glad for this opportunity.

So, tomorrow I head home alone with a carload of leftover garage sale items, which are priced and ready to be a good base of materials for my sale in a few weeks.  I am teaching a course through our summer learning with New Prague, and then I head up to the cities to stay at a hotel with my dad - we are both flying out around the same time early Tuesday morning.  I have snuck in cuddles every opportunity I have been given these past few days and Abby got to pick out her present, eat a huge cake with a massive sucker on top, and is sleeping in bed with me as I write.  I plan on making pancakes for her birthday breakfast and then taking off.

Okay, I need to make finishing touches on my powerpoint for tomorrow's presentation... then off to bed.  Blessings!

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Volunteers of Angel House

Volunteers style

Volunteer
  With the "Volunteer Team" Save the Children, more and more kinds of social activities, among many volunteers have become very good friends. Between friends, share a common goal - to let the children a better tomorrow! Mutual familiarity and moved, so that we get closer and closer it. In this family may also have to remember that we do not face, and we do not have the opportunity to meet friends. The photo on the album, Faster narrow the distance between.
  • Jelly Mom (Beijing)
    Jelly Mom (Beijing)
  • Happy Fish (Shanghai)
    Happy Fish (Shanghai)
  • Shimizu (Shenzhen)
    Shimizu (Shenzhen)
  • Guyan (Nanjing)
    Guyan (Nanjing)
  • Amoy Mom (Changsha)
    Amoy Mom (Changsha)
  • Nana (Beijing)
    Nana (Beijing)
  • Worm (Shanghai)
    Worm (Shanghai)
  • Yaoyao mom (Tianjin)
    Yaoyao mom (Tianjin)
  • Little Keiko
    Little Keiko
  • Little Love Dad
    Little Love Dad
  • Porcelain dolls
    Porcelain dolls
  • Small cold
    Small cold
  • Let singer Chen
    Let singer Chen
  • Dai Dai
    Dai Dai
  • Angel
    Angel
  • Shang Zhou En
    Shang Zhou En
  • Xiaoxia
    Xiaoxia
  • Doll
    Doll
  • Like free wind
    Like free wind

Angel House

Tonight I came across information on the Orphanage (considered a foster home) where our son is.  This is what I found:

Establishment of Angel House

  Angel was originally home team is the cradle of some of the mothers of the composition, beginning in their individual capacities in children from poor families do shake the Nets cases of serious illness relief, and later to the "angel mother" in the name of Save the Children to do. A the end of November 2007 in the evening, one of four sisters from Henan phone, they said from the Internet, we have helped children in distress, and asked where we could help them orphans? There are several orphans they have cleft lip and palate and heart children, due to the lack of timely treatment and have not been well-fed, the children are already dying.
  As the mother of the earliest promoters of Deng angel sister, loving mother led a cradle of several online discussion, assistance to orphans and children from poor families relief is very different for children from poor families only need to raise funds and medical advice, and the remaining child surgery pre-and postoperative care are the responsibility of their parents, we do not need to consider. But for orphans is completely different, we took the orphan treatment, care responsibilities during his Beijing surgery and rehabilitation requires us to bear. We need to take care of her (his) daily eating and sleeping, is responsible for his health, medical, security, and even emotions and feelings. It points to the need for a specialized foster foster these children!
  Therefore, the establishment of a foster point for promoters is enormous pressure, not only to bear the enormous pressure to raise funds, but also due to the 24 hours to take care of these sick children living, so also bear a great social and legal responsibilities, No sponsoring agency, operating entirely on foster point users to maintain 100,500 donation, once funds have difficulties how to do one day? Who bear children because of lack of funds back to the poor conditions of the orphanage can not imagine it going? ?
  But time does not allow us to think clearly some of these issues loving mother, if we hesitate, several children there may soon be no, for these had been very poor orphans, several of our people several hours set this things better within three days to rent a set of three-bedroom house, newly established foster point, consider the funding issue, we rented a house without any furniture and appliances!
  When Angel House was founded, received strong support from the Henan Children's Hope Foundation, they agreed to Angel House hopes hanging in the child's bottom, silently hold up an umbrella angel home!
  The first batch of four children, the British party, party party, party and party jade and joy even in the case of the house are not on a bed was taken over, and then within a week we collected from the Internet to the crib, aunt Temporary sofa bed, TV, washing machine, refrigerator, pots and pans, etc., and slowly the empty house has a warm feeling of a home.
Angel House was founded six years of effort
  After six years of efforts, the angel of the house a total of 147 foster children (as of December 31, 2013), a maximum of 8 years old, the youngest a few days, these children are all congenital children with heart disease disease, cleft lip and palate, anal atresia, intestinal obstruction, spina bifida, hydrocephalus, clubfoot turned the big bubble skin syndrome, cerebral palsy and Down's syndrome.
    We were a total of six children were given 101 106 surgeries, including 72 children already recovered.
    Among a total of 71 years of our children after surgery rehabilitation, adoption is a loving family, began their new life, the blessings they have a better future than flowers!

Angel House funding sources and expenditures

  Angel House was originally supported by the Nets in shake loving friends, the rush was established, the current home of Angels daily expenses are still entirely dependent on the donor community who love friends and 50,100 in support, the support is very difficult, so we each pick a new orphan, need to be fierce ideological struggle, we need to give up the fight and hovering between!
  Angel House main expenditures are: monthly wages of around 150,000 yuan; rental house is 30 million per year; month aunt kids food, water, electricity, gas, etc. is about 20,000 yuan a month, child emergency medical expenses (this part is not fixed every month).
  Currently the cost of surgery is basically a large child to raise alone, easily Angel House will not use the cost of living, because of the number of children do not want surgery, so that dozens of children at risk famished! All children applying for cleft lip and palate surgery costs sweet Fund, the majority of children to raise alone surgery costs only! For example, in December 2011, Zhou Lanhui of congenital heart surgery cost 180,000, all the angels home living support.
        Children usually the cost of treatment of common diseases such as cough, fever big difference in a month, a good case about ten thousand a month, not when a child is likely to last 3-5 million, the medical expenses must be Angel House living donation to bear! So we are very afraid of sick children, especially children of heart disease, once contracted pneumonia, there will be life-threatening, and the cost of a high! June 2008, a small U.S. (with heart) and clever infection bronchitis, were hospitalized at the Watson Research Hospital and the children were discharged before 6000 spent, in July 2008, Yu and (there is a serious heart condition ) fever, blood 23000, do not doubt sepsis, rushed to the child Institute, and later measles pneumonia in children infected with the Institute, before and after treatment costs 20,000 more! April 2009 newborns money Xinyi also because of pneumonia, was sent eighty-one hospital neonatal ward, spent a total of more than 10,000! 2011 New Year's Eve, we picked up in Hebei Zhaoxian Matthew, in Matthew before heart surgery, pneumonia twice to spend 40,000, a palliative cardiac surgery fee is 50,000, two radical cost 100,000 heart, this At least 200,000 children all costs! !
  If there are several such consecutive children, angel home is in danger of famished!
  Angel orphan home for orphans in foster care point of surgery, rehabilitation, foster care agencies. Moms shake the Nets BBS platform through interconnected together to raise the cost of living for the children, surgery.
  Foster points orphan purpose: to help abandoned children, restoring health, return home!
 In orphan adoptions, Angel House orphanage is mainly done with work early adoption, adoption procedures and adoption of specific families and children account for the location of the Civil Affairs Bureau, the angel of the family and the adoptive family will not be charged any fees.
  Angel House is like a small sapling, under the care of many caring people, growing up! Angel oldest of four children home from 2012 up to the time the child has reached 50! Aunt from the fewest number two aunts to the current staff of 30 (including three with cerebral palsy rehabilitation division, three kindergarten teachers)! In calling too many children's lives, whether it is an angel rescue children from home or area are doubling the number of annual growth, with an annual gross salary of employees is also looking through looking through increased growth.
 Early January 2010 Angel House move again


 
From May 19, 2012 began, Angel foster home in Beijing is only one point: the west Tiantongyuan North Station Dongsanqi village 84 acres of land on the 31st hospital

Liang Yun Peng's Original Profile Page

Tonight I spent some time looking for any pictures I could find of our little Christian.  I came across this:

Name:Liang YunpengBirthday:December 8, 2012
Gender:MaleAge:1 year and 6 months
Area:Shangqiu City, Henan Province (foreign adoption has been started) Stage:_ Treat them
Status:Cleft lip and palate 
          Liang Yunpeng, male, born December 8, 2012, from Shangqiu City, Henan Liangyuan social welfare, with congenital cleft lip and palate, January 21, 2013 Angel stay home, the first 126 children bailout.
Yunpeng due with cleft lip and palate, frequent spitting up, every three hours on the need to feed a milk, 120 ml of milk would need nearly half an hour. Although it is difficult to see, but cleft lip and palate is a handsome young man, a pair of talking big eyes, cute! The first step he wants to start a better life from Angel House!

2013-8-30:

Liang Yunpeng Growth Report

    Liang Yunpeng Angel came home has been seven months, and 2013 in six months to complete a cleft lip and palate surgery, recovery of bad.
In Angel's home, his diet and rest conditions: morning or so to get up, points to eat or drink milk, 10 points drink or eat chicken custard, 11 30 to eat or drink milk, 12 points nap in the afternoon three points to get up, milk or water, (do some simple body during training). 16 points drink, 17:30 spur of the moment. 19 30 left to go to bed. Sleep relatively stable. He is an active child, love to laugh, now stand up, you can simply sit for a short time.
Physical development: Height: 63CM     Weight: 6.1 KG     Bust: 41CM       head circumference: 44CM        foot length: 8CM 

2013-6-2:

Liang Yunpeng cleft lip surgery completed

Funded by the sweet angel fund, Liang Yunpeng successful completion of cleft lip surgery.

Original text in Chinese:

 梁云鹏,男,2012年12月8日出生,来自河南省商丘市梁园区社会福利院,患有先天性唇腭裂,2013年1月21日入住天使之家,是救助的第126个孩子。
云鹏由于患有唇腭裂,经常性的吐奶,每隔三小时就需喂一次奶,120ml的奶就需近半个小时。虽是唇腭裂但是不难看出是个帅气的小伙子,一双会说话的大眼睛,人见人爱!希望从天使之家开始他美好人生的第一步!

2013-8-30:

梁云鹏成长报告

    梁云鹏来到天使之家至今已有7个多月了,20136月完成了唇腭裂手术,恢复状况不错。
在天使之家,他的饮食作息状况:早上7点左右起床,8点吃饭或喝奶,10点喝水或吃鸡蛋羹,1130吃饭或喝奶,12点午睡,下午3点起床,喝奶或喝水,(期间做一些简单的肢体训练)。16点喝水,17:30吃粥。1930左右上床睡觉。睡觉比较安稳。他是一个好动的孩子,爱笑,现在会翻身,可以简单地坐一小段时间。
身体发育状况:身高:63CM    体重:6.1 KG     胸围:41CM      头围:44CM        足长:8CM 

2013-6-2:

梁云鹏唇裂手术完成

在嫣然天使基金的资助下,梁云鹏顺利完成唇裂手术。

I also found a new picture!:


Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Halfway to the Century Club


   
   
    So, you know how when you are pregnant you read the What to Expect Books?  If you are the one who is pregnant, especially for those of you who are pregnant with your first, you know how many days into your pregnancy you are, how many days are left, what size fruit your child is, and what milestones are being met in the womb?


I have learned that in the adoption world adoption is called a paper pregnancy.  I am gaining the same pregnancy weight, similar to what husbands get when they gain their pregnancy weight, due to the extra stresses, excitement, celebrations, and set backs.  We have our crib set up sitting empty.  And, I am 50 days into this trimester wait.  What was only a few weeks ago an average of 61 days wait turned into 62, then 64, and today the wait is now an average of 65, although I have seen some people recently join the Century Club, those poor unfortunate souls who need to wait over 100 days, some who have no idea why they were the lucky ones to have to wait up to three times the wait of others, the truly lucky ones.

I had a dream last night about Christian.  In my dream he was about five years old.  I was trying to talk with him and he was getting frustrated because he only spoke Chinese.  It was a strange feeling when I woke up.  I knew that our son will be under two when we bring him home, even if we have to wait another 50 days.  I also knew that many of the fears in my dream will happen.  He will be frustrated because not only do I not speak Chinese and he does not speak English, but he can't talk at all due to his cleft palate.  I will have very limited understanding of his food or clothing preferences, what kind of games or activities he likes, or how much is too much for stimulation.  I was praying as I laid in bed processing this all and a peace came over me.  None of it will matter in the big picture of things.  I know that one day my son will better understand the love that I already have for him.  He will be able to communicate because we will teach him.  We will know what his likes and dislikes are because we will try it all and take mental notes along the way.

   A few weeks ago I was hoping to bring our son home in August, but now we are most realistically looking at September, possibly August, and I am okay with that.  Not super excited, but okay.  God has a reason for everything, and as much as I would love it, His timing is not only about my needs and wants.  With so much to look forward to, I am trying to savor and appreciate every day in between.  Abby did a wonderful job on her dance recital last week.  She looked beautiful and danced like a true ballerina (as best as a four year old can do).  AJ was a trouper sitting through about eight hours of recitals and intermissions.  This week at my school we also painted the playground.  It was a LOT of work, but well worth it.  It was such a treat to see all of the students smiles as they entered the school today.  Another reminder of how blessed I am to be able to do what I do.  This Friday is my last day of work for the school year, and next week I begin tutoring.  I can't wait until I can start organizing my house and start this nesting process :)